
I have always been thinking which of the 2 sexes is actually the stronger….after a lot of thinking I have concluded that it is the fairer sex which is also the stronger of the 2 . Lemme explain it was Charles Darwin who had once said “In the struggle for survival, the fittest win out at the expense of their rivals because they succeed in adapting themselves best to their environment” which perfectly says as to why a Lady is better than a gentle man cause she is more adaptable and more accommodating than the rest of us…my postulate inched forward toward a theory when I read another quote which said that the most powerful man is one who wins a war without raising a sword and the women are amazingly good at that…they hardly ever need to raise a sword cause some chivalrous dumb brute will raise the sword for her and will either perish or slay the enemy…this is pure power when you make things happen but do not need to get your hands all messy….
I have been seeing this upper hand of women all through….my own sister had more freedom than me, and at many places women are preferred to us men…say when we were looking for a rented house most of the landlords preferred unmarried women/girls to us bachelors….so here is a splendid example of how the world is inclined to favor the lady…further more when I was in school I remember getting thrashed to extreme extents fro the tiniest of mistakes but the girl student was always handled with utmost care….this was when I started to get confused as to why are some people fighting for women’s equality when they are treated in such a superior way…the girls have also been mostly good at their academics which made me wonder why they needed a reservation of seats in the academic world, political world or which ever world…I always saw the women around me as strong individuals who could achieve the world…then why ask for such trivial favors…..
I remember my aunt who is a senior cop telling my mom….”Didi if someone tries to harass you just slap him hard enough for the crowd around you to notice it…he will be thrashed by them impromptu cause he firstly cant slap you back secondly the public will automatically assume that something is wrong with the guy and not the girl…”, this made me thinking where is this so called ‘mans world’ that we so often hear of….I could not find it…
But then started reading stories of how women are being suppressed in certain segments of the society and slowly I learnt that those societies are the majority in number and the free, liberated and strong women I have always known are actually still a minority in India and many parts of the world…I was shocked as to how can someone harass such a lovely being who can be loved, respected, revered, cared for, feared may be sometimes hated perhaps but you cannot harm her… then what makes those men suppress them…it cannot be superiority because I sincerely find them to be equals and sometimes superior to us men…then what gives them the guts….cause even from a religious point of view each and every religion has given the women more social powers than men…Hinduism has even extended the woman the right to walk out of her marriage if she is not happy with it, but the man does not enjoy that privilege strictly religiously speaking, also no ceremony is possible without the presence of women…then how is it that they are getting oppressed
I was listening to the conversation between my mother and maid, she was someone who was part of the oppressed women…a husband who would beat her yada yada….but the root cause somewhere was the mother in law and not the husband…he was just the instrument…that is when something dawned upon me ….in many cases it’s the women suppressing the women and the men just play the tools for the suppression…see the mother of the boy many a times gets insecure after the boys wedding…you know the son is going to belong to another woman…here the family politics start and the oppression start and all the ugliness sets in and the unintelligible man who goes ahead and tries to take sides ends up as a tool in ne woman’s hands and becomes an instrument to oppression…this is one possible answer to my query where I always end up….
The topic of this article is Janus society …named after Janus the 2 faced god, and why not, we are after all living in a 2 faced society….on the face of it we live in a highly civilized society with utmost respect for human values and traditions, we are a specie with high tolerance towards another human being, a very secular, democratic and forward looking society but there also exists another very ugly face to our society where there is oppression, rape, hatred, intolerance both religious and racial, we are simultaneously living in a society which is also autocratic, dictatorial and very fundamentalist in its outlook…we are living in a society where in one hand we go ahead and worship the feminine form, celebrate her success and respect her and on the other we live in a society where she is regularly oppressed and made to think that being a woman is perhaps her biggest mistake…
What is the actual face of the society we are living in today …I am more than sure even the most intelligent mind in this world will not be able to answer this question…and how will he or she be able to when he is busy playing an instrument or busy playing with an instrument….we are living in a society which as on date does not have the time to stop and think as to how we can surgically remove the ugly face of this society so that the gangrene does not spread to the healthier and more handsome face….
Introspective
JD